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What am I thankful for?

It’s a quiet year here this year at Thanksgiving – and that’s just fine with me.

I’m using this almost kid-free weekend to work through things I’d like to preserve & things I’d like to discard over the next few months (in anticipation of a major milestone birthday that frankly, scares the bejeezus out of me), and am in a contemplative mood as a result. So I bailed on the whole ‘have people over for dinner’. Bailed on the ‘go to friends for dinner (as immortalized in previous T-Day posts below – most notably the ‘green bean casserole’ post.) And I’m also not picking strangers up for dinner, either. (What? It’s also been done – see ‘Best. Thanksgiving. Ever.’ link below.)

Instead, I’m going to use the time I’d normally spend stuffing a big-ass turkey to talk about what I’m thankful for this year.

If you supported my whole ‘Get Betsy Healthy‘ campaign – whether by commenting on Facebook, Twitter or in person? Thank you. I’m not done, by any stretch of the imagination – but it sure is nice to know you have people rooting for you.

If you stood by in bemusement as I partially chronicled #SheTeen’s bat mitzvah adventures on the blog, or commented on Twitter when I shared #HeTeen or #SheTeen stories? Thanks to you as well. They are, of course, almost entirely true – and it helps to endure same by getting some bonus laughs as a side benefit! (Huge thanks to everyone who attended the grand event – it was lovely to see each and every one of you. Yes, I’m still going to make #SheTeen write thank you notes.)

In fact, I have to give a shout-out to all of my Twitter followers, who’ve endured late night bourbon postings, snarky asides about my unfortunate dating options after scanning Match.com, or put up with my smart-ass comments galore. (I specialize in those, don’t you know…)

I’m also blessed with a bunch of great friends IRL. And whether you’re far away, or here in PDX (and not at my Thanksgiving table this year, sorry…) I resolve to do a better job of supporting you in all the ways you’ve been there for me this year. (And yes, that means hanging out more often with the ladies of #boozetues, or eating dinner with my steak buddy, @crunchysue!)

But I have to reserve special thanks this year for four really important people in my life:

#HeTeen: We’ve had an, um, tumultuous few years for sure. But as you prepare to leave the nest (and I refrain from following you out the door with a size 7 hovering near your posterior at times), know that I’m thankful for the lessons you taught me about being a better parent – and the lessons you teach me every day about being an authentic, honest human being.

#SheTeen: (I have more later this weekend to say about this one – stay tuned.) She teaches me every day about the value of staying true to yourself, being expressive & going for what you’re passionate about. Me? Mostly slow on the uptake – but I always pay attention (there’s no real way not to with this kid.) You and I? We’re still joined at the hip for the next few years. But I promise to loosen the reins – if you’ll promise not to pull with overwhelming force. Deal? Deal.

Robert Wagner and Sabrina Miller. They have always been there for me – through the tumult, drama, boredom or non-specific agita. She provides unflagging support and inspires me to do what I love every day. He often provides the kick in the ass I need – because he can see (and then say to me) things that others wouldn’t notice or dare to say. Of course, he usually nails it in one. Together, they’re my moral compass. (Yes, I mean it – @robwagpdx is my motivational guru!) I couldn’t ask for better friends. Thank you.

Okay, now I’m all weepy – but it’s a good kind of cry.

Who are the people you’re thankful for this year?
And – what’s stopping you from telling them? Today, even?

(I’m telling my two kids by making them bacon before they head off with dad for the rest of the weekend, in fact…)

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2 Responses to What am I thankful for?

  1. Linda says:

    Betsy,
    Thanks for this post. I started following you after hearing you on Portland Sucks and Hamfisted Radio. I too lived alone with 2 teens who are now grown with families of their own. Those teen years were tumultuous, but I think they are for everyone, and kids need a firm rudder to get them through. I also admire your Get Betsy Healthy Campaign, could use a bit of your resolve myself. Finally, it’s nice to know of women who appreciate a good bourbon and a quiet moment on the porch with a glass of wine. Don’t be afraid of the impending birthday. If it’s the one I think it is, embrace it and show it who’s boss. Thanks for your openness and humor, I find it refreshing and encouraging. Happy Thanksgiving. Linda

  2. Betsy Richter says:

    Linda,

    I am very thankful that I got the chance to appear on both those shows, and look forward to assisting Robert in the future if he needs it. But I have to say that it still blows me away that people can relate to what I talk/tweet/write about – so you gave me a very nice reminder to keep it up. Thanks for stopping by!

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