How’d I get to be so bossy, anyway?

Part One

I was the first of three children born in a 22-month span (my mother was a good Catholic once upon a time). When my parents split up and mom went back to work in my early teens, I was the responsible kid put in charge for things like after-school supervision and vain attempts to prevent wild parties on weekends. My brother’s nickname for me? Mama Two. (It was most definitely not a compliment.) Being bossy was not my friend, and it didn’t win me any points.

…fast-forward several years…

Part Two

While talking with friends online about parenting strategies, especially from the perspective of a single parent, I uttered the words:

Around here, I have active input on all decisions, and my whim is law.

I meant it to be half-serious and a knee-jerk reaction to the fact that, in many ways, my life right now doesn’t feel very controlled or self-directed. So if I can assert some control somewhere, why not?

But the line sparked a reaction of sorts. My friend Terry wants it embroidered on a needlepoint pillow. And it’s become a rallying cry of sorts as I attempt to take a bit more control back.

Let’s see if being bossy works for me this time around…


  1. terry

    As you well know, at my house, we take a very Animal Farm approach to parenting. we are not all equal pigs, and I think that anyone who raises their kids otherwise is doing them a great disservice.

  2. betsy

    Yep, Alex has been studying forms of government at school, and keeps wanting to believe that we’ve got a democracy here.

    And while I try to include them in decisions where possible and reinforce that they do have choices (usually to do what they’re supposed to -or – take the consequence for not doing so, heh), he’s decided that we either have a dictatorship and/or benign monarchy.

    Hey – works for me!

  3. I hold to it that when my daughter can legally vote concerning matters affecting the future of the nation,then she can vote on matters affecting the future of our family (dosen’t mean her vote’ll change anything, after all she’s not quite an adult). When she shows she has more than a drop of common sense, I’ll hear her opinion but she still won’t have a vote.

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